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Planning a wedding can be stressful. When you are marrying for the second time, you know how to cut out the excess so you can enjoy the day. If you are becoming a blended family with children, you will face challenges. The way you include the children in the marriage will set the tone for your relationships.
There is a fine line between including the children, and giving the day to the children. Like everything else in life, balance is the key.
Below you will find some favored ways to include children in the wedding. Busy hands are happy hands. But, pay attention. Is your little one becoming overwhelmed? Keep their contributions to a small area. If you see they are getting tired, let them nap or play while your bridal party works on.
When you are trying to find where to find a wedding dress, begin online. This gives you a huge selection and you are under no pressure to make a choice. Chances are your child will not be over enthused to watch you surf the web. But, there are other ways to include them.
Give your child a poster. If you can put it on the refrigerator, that would work well. Sit them down and hand them wedding magazines (we know you have some.) and safety scissors. Tell them to go through the magazines and when they find a dress that they like, cut it out. Tape the selections to the poster. Use tape so they can remove pictures and add new ones they find.
Keep the game going. They can select outfits for themselves. They can find suggestions for what they think their Grandmother should wear. You can let them find wedding flowers and even the cake. (Be sure you take them to the cake tasting.)
Make a trip to the wedding dress store and select a couple of gowns that you like. This gives you time to shop. Get the associates business card. Make plans to go on a family shopping event. Call the associate ahead of time so she can pull the gowns you chose. Try on the gowns and let the family have a voice in the selection.
If your child is going to be in the wedding, he or she can try on their clothes. If they are going to perform, go online to find a dance supplier and help them select their costume.
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Your child can help you by getting the shoes you want to try on. They can help you select jewelry and other accessories. Remember, don’t tell them to look at the rack and point out earrings. Select a few pair that you like and let them help you choose.
By the time you have completed the bridal gown selection, your little one may be cranky. Go out for a kid-friendly dinner where there is a playground to burn off some of the nervous energy. Praise them for a job well done and brag on them to others.
Include them in the fun stuff. Let her go with you and the others when you get your hair done. Take her when you get your manicure or a pedicure. She can help you select the bridesmaids gifts and all kinds of little things that make her feel special.
You are laying a firm foundation for your children. You are not just saying they are important, you showed them. Change can be difficult, but with patience and love, you can accomplish anything.